Mind over matter
If you’ve ever struggled with self-assurance in your interactions with others, take note. These are the phrases you’ll hear truly confident people say.
1. Coping mechanisms
Go to a confident friend with a list of “what-ifs” or reasons why something may turn out badly, and you’ll likely hear this kind of reassurance. It’s because confident people generally don’t worry. They understand that even if something goes wrong, they can handle it.
2. Stay optimistic
Truly confident people expect good things to happen. At the same time, their track record of making good decisions means they possess the ability to temper their positivity with realistic thinking.
3. Stand out
Confident individuals don’t feel compelled to conform to gain acceptance from others. This is the underlying beauty of confidence–the calm self-assurance that makes others want to follow.
4. Emotional Control
Research shows that 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence. Part of that is being empathetic to others–which is also a key contributor to genuine confidence.
5. Opportunity seekers
Whether it’s building the right relationships, asking for a promotion, or otherwise taking a leap of faith, confident people have a vision for the future and chart their own path to get there.
6. Lead with enthusiasm
Confident people understand that there are no limits to what can be accomplished, given sufficient resources and motivation. This glass-half-full outlook typically rubs off on those around them.
7. Smart confrontations
Confident people take a stand when it comes to matters of right and wrong, yet they know which battles are worth fighting. They’ll also back down graciously if proved wrong because they’re secure enough to consider other viewpoints.
8. Moving forward
The self-assured are willing to try anything, which means they are no strangers to failure. Owning up to mistakes not only shows accountability, but also earns you the respect of your peers.
9. Listen up
Confident people listen far more than they talk, are naturally curious, and express a genuine interest in others. Conversely, those who monopolize conversations or brag show they have something to prove and are masking insecurity.
10. Admit weakness
Instead of worrying what others will think if they ask for help, confident people are more concerned with self-improvement, gaining valuable skills, and performing a job well.
11. Offer assistance
Confident people believe they can contribute help to most any situation. Avoid the fine line between self-assured and pompous by actually following through on requests.
12. Stay affirmative
In times of adversity, confident individuals rely on self-affirmations to boost their morale–and rightly so. One study found that self-affirmations increase problem-solving and protect against the damaging effects of stress.